the answer is not removing educational classes from school or simply saying to your kids "wait until you are married to have sex." Although great advice, it isn't really going to satify the always questioning ever curious mind of a middle school student charged up on hormones. Show your kids why sexual relationships should be kept in the context of a giving, sacrificial and binding marriage relationship like we see on the wedding day of Solomon and his bride in the 4th chapter of the book of Song of Solomon in the Bible.
The message we get from the world today is that the primary reason for sex is physical pleasure. This view turns other people into objects to be used for self-gratification.
GOD has a different view of sex.
Just after Solomon and his bride consumate their marriage we come to Chapter 5:1 of Song of Solomon which says, "Eat, O friends! Drink, yes, drink deeply, O beloved ones!" This seems like an odd statement to be made because the guests wouldn't be present at this time. In his book, A Song For Lovers, Craig Glickman suggests, and I agree this is the voice of God delighting in the sexual intamacey of this married couple. "God is glad they have drunk deeply of the fountain of love."
When sexual intimacy occurs in right timing with the right person it is meant to be enjoyed fully. Just sex, with out the intimacy, in the backseat of a car, in a secret motel or with a person other than your spouse will never be fully satisfying becasuse there will always be an element of guilt and shame associated with it. Unfortuntatley, as parents we cannot make decisions for our kids, all we can do is talk openly with them about the pros and cons of the choices associated with sex and pray they choose wisely.
if we never present them with the choice God has for them they will choose what the world has to offer every time!
Alana and I don't have all the answers but we don't want our kids to learn about sex on the playground, TV or the internet so we decided to invest time in teaching them how to treat their own bodies and future mates bodies with love and respect so their honeymoon can be the beginning of a life long relationship not just a night of pleasure.